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All Alone . . . Again
Tisha B'Av 5768
by Rabbi Yakov Horowitz
Publication: The Jewish Press

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8/8/08

Eicha yashva vadad – Alas; she sits in solitude (Eicha 1:1).”

The haunting words of Megilas Eicha resonate in our hearts and minds as we prepare to sit on the ground this coming Tisha B’Av and commemorate the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash 1,940 years ago.

Sadly, history is repeating itself once again. It was only two years ago that our brothers and sisters in Eretz Yisroel were subjected to horrific destruction and terror with thousands of rockets raining down on them for over a month. A sea of enemies sworn to our destruction surrounds us. The leader of Iran repeatedly calls for the eradication (G-d forbid) of Israel, and publicly states that, “Israel’s destruction is the solution [to the conflict]”. The vile, hate-filled, anti-Semitic rhetoric emanating from many leaders in the Arab world – and most of the ‘Arab Street’ – is at least equivalent to that of the Nazi propaganda machine in the late 1930’s. The vast majority of nations would deny us the right to protect our women and children by any means possible.

It is hard to avoid the feeling that Klal Yisroel is isolated and alone … again.

So what does this mean for us? How do we, who live in comfort and security in America, prepare to commemorate Tisha B’Av properly? What are the messages we ought to internalize, and what actions should we be taking?

I guess I would divide the “take-aways” into two groups:

1) Offer material and emotional support to our brothers and sisters in Eretz Yisroel. Purchase items made in Israel and online from Israeli stores. Support the organizations that are helping our brothers and sisters in Eretz Yisroel and daven for the soldiers who are risking their lives to protect them.

Adopt a family, community or school who have been hard-hit by last year’s rocket attacks or are still suffering from the effects of the disengagement. Three years ago, Yeshiva Darchei Noam, where I serve as Menahel, ‘adopted’ the elementary school of Atzmonah, Gush Katif, as they relocated to the Netivot area. We bought them school supplies, sports equipment, and for Pesach, we partnered with a chesed organization and bought each of the children a brand-new bicycle. Our children and theirs exchanged letters and cards throughout the year. It was so much appreciated by them – and so rewarding for my talmidim. Many schools and shuls in North America have conducted similar programs. The need is great and the time for action is now.

2) On a more personal and spiritual note; I think we all ought to read the stirring and timeless words of our nevi’im in the haftoros of Shabbos Chazon and Tisha B’av – and make a sincere cheshbon hanefesh.

There are two recurring themes in these lines. One relates to the Jews of those times serving idols and forsaking Hashem. At least on the surface, this does not seem to be very relevant today. The second theme, on the other hand, is very much germane to our lives. It speaks to the fact that the Jews of those times were concentrating on spiritual trappings (bringing korbanos) and not on the essence of Hashem’s Torah (honesty, integrity, and kindness).

“Why do I need your numerous sacrifices? (Yeshaya 1:11),” asks Hashem. The Navi exclaims that Hashem is “weary of your korbanos (1:14)”, and that He “will not listen to your prayers (1:15).” Why was that so? It was certainly a great mitzvah to purchase and bring karbonos to the Beis Hamikdash. But, as the Navi relates, those mitzvos were mere adornments to the core values of our Torah. And the Navi clearly describes what the Jews needed to do in order to redeem themselves. “Purify yourselves, seek justice, strengthen the victim, and take up the cause of the widow/orphan (1:16-17).

I suggest that we engage in a constructive cheshbon hanefesh regarding the essential elements of the qualities noted by the Navi – honesty, integrity, true ahavas Yisroel, supporting those among us who are weak and unable to conduct their lives with simchas hachayim. We should be asking ourselves if we are doing all we can to make a true kiddush Hashem in our interactions with non-Jews, non-religious Jews, and frum Yidden who may be of different backgrounds. For these qualities is the essence of what Hashem’s Torah produces.

In these troubling times, surrounded by our enemies, isolated and alone, we ought to be striving to fulfill the timeless charge of Yirmiyahu in the closing words of the haftorah of Tisha B’Av, “For only with this may one glorify himself; become wise and [get to] know Me [contemplate how to better emulate the ways of Hashem], for I am Hashem who does kindness, justice and righteousness …” (Yirmiyahu 9:23).

May Hashem dry our tears and comfort us with the rebuilding of the Beis Hamikdash.

© 2008 Rabbi Yakov Horowitz, all rights reserved

Rabbi Yakov Horowitz is the founder and Dean of Yeshiva Darchei Noam of Monsey, and the founder and Director of Agudath Israel’s Project Y.E.S.



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1. thinking in the darkness     8/10/08 - 10:46 PM
Sarit - Ramat Bet Shemesh

Rav Horowitz writes:

We should be asking ourselves if we are doing all we can to make a true kiddush Hashem in our interactions with non-Jews, non-religious Jews, and frum Yidden who may be of different backgrounds.

This Tisha B'Av, Rav Zev Leff quoted a stirring commentary on one of the kinot, which I would like to pass along.

There is a kinna about the son and daughter of the Kohen Gadol, who are taken into slavery and whose respective owners decide to partner these two beautiful slaves so that they can share in similarly beautiful offering.

The kinna describes the two being thrown into a chamber in the dark night, a sort of slave marriage, and the thoughts of each through the night: degraded from the stature of a priestly family to married to a servant. And in the morning the light reveals who their cellmate is: their own brother/sister, at which point they hug and cry and their souls leave the world.

This commentary likened us to the slave Kohanim: living in the darkness of exile, and thinking the person next to us is a lowly servant not even worthy of our company. Yet when the light is shed upon the world, we will see that they, too, are noble Jews just as we are.

[So that while the nations of the world might denigrate and harm us, we need to look at our fellow Jews as equals in the struggle.]


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2. So true!     8/11/08 - 11:34 AM
Yardena - EY

Thanks for the crucial reminder, Rabbi Horowitz.

Sarit, that was a beautiful point. Thanks for sharing.


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3.     8/13/08 - 8:24 PM
Anonymous

When we view photos and footage documenting terrorist attacks in Eretz Yisroel, it is always striking how many different stripes of Yidden appear at the scene--both victims and rescue workers. Our enemies don't distinguish between us based on our hashkofic differences--to them we are all the same hated people. And when tragedy strikes, r"l, we are all quick to band together and help. It seems that we do better at achdus and ahavas Yisroel when the enemy points guns at us. Perhaps we need to show Hashem that we can achieve unity without the tzaros and pain.


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4.     7/29/09 - 4:58 PM
Benzion Twerski

This article is a fresh, if repeated, message that we need to read again and again until it is absorbed. There are many salient points, but I wish to highlight and comment on one. I copied and pasted the entire paragraph here so that the words appear in context.

“I suggest that we engage in a constructive cheshbon hanefesh regarding the essential elements of the qualities noted by the Navi – honesty, integrity, true ahavas Yisroel, supporting those among us who are weak and unable to conduct their lives with simchas hachayim. We should be asking ourselves if we are doing all we can to make a true kiddush Hashem in our interactions with non-Jews, non-religious Jews, and frum Yidden who may be of different backgrounds. For these qualities is the essence of what Hashem’s Torah produces.”

Our Chachomim as well as our Baalei Mussar speak about the obligation to perform a regular (daily or nightly) cheshbon hanefesh. In 12-step recovery programs, this process is labeled a “searching and fearless moral inventory”, and it is recommended as a regular part of one’s recovery from addictions. (We did think of it first.) In doing this inventory, one needs to examine one’s behavior, thoughts, and feelings. It is inadequate to list the fact that one has davened all three tefilos of the day with a minyan. One is obligated to calculate if these tefilos were done with the appropriate kavana and without the outside attention to other matters or how others are davening or watching. If there is room for improvement that can be noted, this becomes a salient aspect of this cheshbon hanefesh. That is what is involved in the “constructive cheshbon hanefesh”. No stories, reports, or scorecards. It is the identification of areas in which we can improve ourselves, be better ovdei Hashem, and bring ourselves closer to HKB”H.

Unfortunately, few people that I know do this frequent cheshbon hanefesh. And many who would are likely to, fall into the trap of their defensiveness, recording just what would appear to the outside spectator (actually a cheshbon haguf). It is all too tempting to ignore the fact that our hearts and minds are less tuned in to the “Shivisi Hashem Linegdi Somid” than is appropriate.

I appreciate this reminder from Rabbi Horowitz that cheshbon hanefesh needs to be constructive.


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5. A personal thought     7/29/09 - 7:27 PM
Yisrael

As I sit here awaiting the saddest day of the year, and contemplate on how riddled we are with sin'as chinam - I want to extend my heart to all Jews all over the world, tell them I love them regardless of who they are, and pray with them together to our Father in Heaven to once again unite us and bring us home.


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6. Words of Consolation and Rebuilding     7/30/09 - 8:33 PM
Askanim - Chicago

People who are unable to achieve Simchas HaChaim due to circumstances way beyond their control have a special place on Hashem's radar screen. Hashem instructs the community to help rebuild and rejuvinate their spirits and support them materially as well.

When a community joins together to punish those who endured unspeakable hardships, Hashem notices. Hashem knows he must come to the aid of the downtrodden, and fulfill his commitment that Hashem seeks to protect the ones who are pursued. What Hashem does to the pursuers is never pretty.

It is time we as a community work together with unity to rebuild those who were pursued. As a result of our mistreatment of them, their needs are great. Instead of setting up a safety net for them to fall into, we watched with glee as they fell into a great abyss. It is up to us to rebuild their broken spirits. Let us not fail again.

May we be partners with Hashem to wipe the tears off the faces of those who we have forsaken. As a result may Hashem redeem us and bring us to a rebuilt Yerushalayim.

May we all merit to enjoy the festive holiday of Tisha B'Av next year in Yerushalayim.

Nachamu, Nachamu Ami!! It's all in OUR hands!!!

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