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You are Invited to Participate in My New Radio Program
by Rabbi Yakov Horowitz

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10/12/08

Dear Readers:

I would once again like to take this opportunity to thank all of you who have become sponsors or already purchased tickets for the Project YES benefit concert with Avrohom Fried and Chazzan Helfgot to be held the Sunday night after Succos at The Jazz at Lincoln Center. The ticket sales are going fast and some sections are already sold out, so I urge you to book your seats online soon, or call the Project YES office at (718) 758-3131 so that your tickets can be sent out before Yom Tov.

I am excited to announce that this Thursday evening (October 16th) I will be launching a pilot call-in radio program, to enable you to ask me questions and discuss parenting issues. The program will be airing on WSNR 620 AM in the New York metro area and on WKAT 1360 AM in Miami at 10:00 p.m. or streaming online at www.talklinecommunications.com.

My readers at www.rabbihorowitz.com have the special opportunity to post questions here now for discussion, and to post comments and questions as you listen to the program, for dialogue on the show. I eagerly look forward to hearing from you.

Best wishes for a Gutten Yom Tov,

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1. Alcohol on Simchas Torah 10/12/08 - 10:22 PM
Anonymous - Spring Valley, NY

Rabbi Horowitz, Good luck on your new radio program. It is perfect timing before Simchas Torah to highlight the need for "dry" Hakofos and not to endanger the lives of children by providing alcohol. The notion that it can be supervised by adults is ludicrous when the adults themselves are either high, or busy with the Hakofos. Please research with Hatzoloh their statistics for calls on Simchas Torah due to drinking, and also the fact that as you said Motzoei Shabbos, both alcohol and smoking are gateways to drugs. So this is the perfect opportunity to discuss alcohol. Thank you. Hashem should give you Koach and Hatzlochoh.

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2. i need some parenting advice 10/13/08 - 10:46 AM
Anonymous - NY

My husband and I have been married before and we each have children from our previous lives. We also have a son from our marriage together. He is 15 and a wonderful young man. He is courteous, has derech eretz and is extremely bright--not just in his class but probably the top bochur in his yeshiva. While we both shep tremendous yiddishe nachas from him, my husband and I differ in our relationships with him. I find talking to and with him goes over much better than my husband who talks AT him and most of the time very sarcastic. I have discussed this with my husband many times and it just goes in one ear and out the other. I also told him that if it continues then he will just begin to hate him and I see the beginnings of it now. When my son needs something from him, he says--does it have to be right now? Right now? It has gotten to the point that my son will ask me to ask his father to do something because he just doesn't want to hear the sarcasm all the time. We daven in a small shul where chasan torah and chassan berashis don't go for crazy numbers and with this all my son took his maaser money to purchase chasan bereishis for his father and last year he purchased chasan torah. He loves his father but even though he doesn't show it I am afraid that he will hate him and lose respect for him even though it doesn't show. As his mother I can see the pain in his face. I am caught in the middle as I want to be able to comfort my son when he needs ( and there are times when he has cried) and going against something my husband has said or done. I will say that I have stuck up for my son and I have told my husband that my job is to protect our son. I will end by saying that my husband is a good man and a good husband. a baal chesed and a mentch. But this is something that we just cannot and do not agree upon.

With best wishes for a gut kvittel and a chag sameach.

Thank you

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3. Take your children to shul - yours or any shul? 10/13/08 - 11:05 AM
Gedalya - Brooklyn - gedalya.engel@idt.net

Dear Rabbi Horowitz,

Is it kedai to put pressure on one's kids to daven in the same shul as their father; should the father let them go where they enjoy the davening, and even possibly change his place of davening to accomodate them? Some would argue against letting the kids decide where the family davens, as they might choose a place that davens quicker, has a better Kiddush, etc.

Hatzlocho on your radio show!

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4. 10/13/08 - 12:31 PM
Goldy

How do you feel about young men today getting marrried without having prepared themselves properly for any kind of parnasa? How do you feel about young mothers today not being home to raise their babies because they are out working to support their families?

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5. Barack Husain Obama, fear, socialism, radicalism 10/13/08 - 1:01 PM
schlomo - woodbury - s.aaron@nutronicsimaging.com

Dear Rabi Shana Tova and Hatima Tova, I would like to tell you what I heard and witness just before Rosh Ashana. For almost 2 weeks, I kept it with myself and did not what to do, should I speak up. I decided to speak up. I was buying food at one of the Kosher restaurants in Brooklyn NY and on the way walking to my car that parked cross the street I have been witnessed black people shouting from their car towards religious Jews crossing the street with me. They were saying" ..... dirty Jews once Obama is a president we will burn your homes like Hitler ......" The mother of those kids asked her husband to hurry and leave the area, I do not know if they reported this to the police, but it is scary, it was not far that the Jewish people lost over 6 million people. What to do? Jewish people need direction, should we wait like in the 1930's and not seeing it coming?

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6. Question for discussion 10/13/08 - 1:45 PM
Anonymous

Much of the prevailing wisdom in our mosdos is to vilify and prohibit the use of text messaging and electronic media, and indeed the dangers in allowing teens unsupervised access to these tools can be sakanas nefashos, as indicated by many of our gedolim.

On the other hand, my feeling is that txting is simply the metzius of the future--our teens all know how to text and i'm not sure it is possible to insulate them from reality to such an extent. I'm also wary of falling behind my kids' step and thereby rendering myself so outmoded as to be irrelevant, but at the same time I know I am the parent whose responsibility it is to set the pace. Lemaaseh, we are the parents of several teens, b'h, and wonder if perhaps there is a way to teach our children just how to use these tools for the good in a responsible way,with awareness of the dangers out there. To narrow the question: Is there a place for guidance and chinuch on this matter, or are the dangers so frightening that we cannot afford to give an inch?

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7. Kosher Fun & Family Time 10/13/08 - 2:14 PM
Sherree

This is a topic we discussed here on line and it is so important and worth addressing on the air. Communities need desperately to address the needs of children to have their needs addressed and have ways of means of "kosher fun" organized for them. This should and could be by means of a JCC with a gym and swimming pool available for both boys and girls on separate days; programs where kids can do things like mother/daughter choir father/son band and vice a versa.

It is also very important to have family time and any way that we can do it, whether by means of Kosher fun with programs such as creative crafts, debate teams, arts, sciences, or days off for family trips and reunions, it is an issue that needs desperately to be addressed.

Children come in all sizes, shapes and types. Not all can sit and learn all day, and not all can add another 3 or 4 hours of busy time at night. Kids need to relax their minds and bodies and ignite their creative juices to bring simcha into their lives. It doesn't mean they are copying goyim, it means they are bonding as yiddin.

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8. Please Remove Comment No. 5 10/13/08 - 4:19 PM
Anonymous

Political discussions are appropriate at other Web sites; not this one.

Thank you. Chag Sameach.

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9. To Anonymous #8 10/15/08 - 11:56 PM
Rachel J.

What is so political about his comment? He is asking Rabbi Horowitz for advice.

I don't think comment #5 should be taken off.

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10. Removal of Comments 10/16/08 - 12:45 AM
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Requests to 'ADMIN' to remove a particular post are ignored. We have chosen to leave it up to the public to self-govern these posts, because our eyes, obviously, cannot be everywhere, at once.

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11. "Report this Post" Is Not Functioning 10/16/08 - 11:16 AM
Anonymous

I, too, object to Comment No. 5 Barack Husain Obama, fear, socialism, radicalism obviously the sneaky product of a McCain-Palin supporter.

I tried Report this Post, but it was not functioning.

I, too, respectfully request that such political comments be removed from this Web site.

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12. WARNING Regarding Comment No. 5 10/16/08 - 11:56 AM
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Use of this Web site to promote political candidates and/or causes may jeopardize the tax-exempt status of its sponsors and participants, including Agudath Israel, Project YES, and Yeshiva Darchei Noam.

The offending comment no. 5 has been at this site for three days.

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13. Political Coments 10/16/08 - 1:39 PM
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This site does not promote or support any political candidates, as should be obvious to anyone who frequents the site. We are not responsible for the public posting of comments. As mentioned elsewhere, you can have any comment removed by using the "Report this Post" feature.

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14. Terrible Role Model 10/16/08 - 2:38 PM
Attorney

Comment No. 5 is in violation of the law requiring tax-exempt institutions to be non-political. By not removing it, you are responsible for it. It has been here three days!

More importantly, Rabbi Horowitz's stubborn administrator is sending a terrible message: That Charedim are not bound by Dina DeMalchusa!

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15. In Response to the Political Comment Above 10/16/08 - 6:58 PM
Equal Time

When U.S. Senator Obama was a member of the Illinois Legislature, his colleague and roommate was Illinois State Senator Ira Silverstein, an Orthodox Jew who praises him as being very intelligent and fair-minded.

Over the last several years, Senator Obama has been an adjunct (part-time) professor in the Law School of the University of Chicago. Many of his students are Jewish and they, likewise, praise him.

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16. Something more important 10/17/08 - 12:02 AM
Sherree

How do we get together and clean house? How to restore honesty and integrity to our Batei Dinim so that we can trust them and turn to them for honest verdicts when we find ourselves in troubling situations?

Where do we find Rabbonim to sit on these courts that are above reproach and not subject to bribery, blackmail and other forms of threats so that they can be controled by one party or the other to decide the verdict in their favor?

How do we bring honor and Kidush Hashem back to our Religous court systems?

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17. Alcohol at the Rebbe's house 10/17/08 - 12:15 AM
Anonymous - Manhattan - draizel@verizon.net

First of all, I commend you for your radio program Thursday night and all your work on behalf of Klal Yisroel. Yeyasher Kochacha.

Could you comment on the practice in many Yeshivos that underage students drink (sometimes in excess) at the Rebbe's house on Purim.

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18. Comment No. 16: Batei Dinim (Religious Courts) 10/17/08 - 10:18 AM
Anonymous

This issue, particularly the difficulty of obtaining true justice from Batei Dinim, was discussed by Rabbi Yosef Gavriel Bechhofer at his Web site (http:\\rygb.blogspot.com) in a series of posts last year (October 3, 8, 10, and 12, 2007): http://rygb.blogspot.com/search?updated-min=2007-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-05%3A00&updated-max=2008-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-05%3A00&max-results=50

Rabbi Bechhofer was representing Rabbeim (teachers) who are owed back-pay by a Yeshiva in Chicago that closed. That religious corporation has realized a substantial sum from the sale of the Yeshiva building and continues to earn revenue from a Vatikin Minyan it runs. However, it refuses to pay its former employees.

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19. Comments No. 16 & 18 10/18/08 - 11:45 PM
Anonymous

Thank you, Commenter No. 18, for responding to Commenter No. 16. I found the practical Halachah discussions very informative and helpful.

Considering that Rav Horowitz's radio program and the current discussion are regarding parenting, what is the connection?

In the case at hand, a well-known Rosh Yeshiva ZT"L was a Tzadik Gamur, very meticulous in all matters, especially Bein Adam LaChaveiro. At least 99.9% of his Talmidim are wonderful Jews. What can be done to convince the exception not to embarrass the great Tzadik ZT"L who was his Rebbe?

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20. #19 10/19/08 - 10:30 AM
Jewish Observer

Acharei Mos Kedoshim Emor. Now that this great Rosh Yeshiva was niftar, suddenly in your mind he became a tzaddik. While he was alive, YOU and your ilk were mevazeh him and treated him like a shaigetz.

Don't start a tumult shelo l'shem shomayim. The rav is following the rosh yeshiva's will faithfully. Shame on you.

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21. TO Sheree 10/20/08 - 9:35 AM
Anonymous

Sheree is absolutely correct in her assertions regarding Bais Din. A civil/criminal court judge can face disbarment if they take a case they had dealings with, because it creates a conflict of interest. The Torah states explicitly, "For the bribe blinds the eyes of the wise man". Once money, power is exerted over a Bais Din, one is assured of a miscarriage of justice.

Bais Din has no legal enforcement authority over anyone. It is a glorified non-binding arbitration service. As a certain large yeshiva undergoing dispute has filed with court "The Bais Din is an ad-hoc commitee bereft of any legal standing". It's a hard pill to swllow, but that's reality, a Bais Din is a joke. The primary issue being their bowing in fear of harassment, and bowing down to supporters offering monitary "encouragement" to find an acceptable solution in one party's favor.

If a partner stole $1,000,000 from you, why would you go to Bais Din to make a compromise and only be repaid $900,000, he stole $1,000,000 that's what he owes you? Even this negotiated sum is uncollectable, because Bais Din has no power to put liens, wage garnishment etc. into affect.

No one should ever go to Bais Din for a criminal matter. A Bais Din certainly has no jurisdiction over criminal matters. Firstly, they have no law enforcement power whatsoever. Secondly, they have proven to be very effective intimidation experts. No criminal court judge would ever dare tell a victim "I can't guarantee your safety". The "Frum" world has to wake that we don't live in Russia where corruption just goes. Nor do we live in Afghanistan under sharia rules, where intimidation rules the day.

What should be done????????????????

1] EVERY dayan must undergo a thorough audit of donations and payments received personally, and professionally for three years prior to taking a case, and one year post-verdict, to assure NO GOODS OR SERVICES WERE RENDERED BY ANY PARTY IN A DISPUTE. PARTY refers to any business associates, self, and family members thereof.

>>> A dayan found in violation must be publicized, and stripped of all further Rabbinic authority. >>> The verdict is automatically deemed null and void.

>>> Permission to go to court is automatically given.

2] Rabbis and dayanim need professional standards. Standards and ethical practices must be set up by a nationally recognized body by which anyone wishing to be called "dayan" or "rabbi" must register with. They have a fraternity and society just like accountants and lawyers, only without any standards.

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22. 10/20/08 - 2:03 PM
Anonymous

There are barely standards of accountability in yeshiva-let alone Rabbanus.

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23. #22 10/20/08 - 6:10 PM
Anonymous

Even more of a reason not to go to a "din Torah". It's a Din Torah NOT CHassan Torah. Din Torah's shouldn't go to the highest bidder. Until a syatem is in place to police the rabbis and dayanim, the ONLY place anyone with a brain who has a REAL, and LEGITIMATE concern should go to is court.

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24. Administration 10/22/08 - 9:28 PM
Anonymous

If you follow the comments that have been posted on the various threads, it is clear that there is a readership of youngsters who participate in this forum.

I know this is intended to be a parenting oriented website, but i'm wondering if perhaps there is a place and a need for addressing teens as well. I can only imagine the tip of the iceberg of the diverse considerations that would be involved (logistic and otherwise) but--just a thought!

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25. to comment 14 10/24/08 - 10:49 AM
Anonymous

the admin is rabbi horowitz himself. also this has nothing to do with the aguda as they have trown progect yes off their table

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26. Comment No. 25 10/24/08 - 11:24 AM
Anonymous

I believe you are wrong in both of your statements.

Also, I second a comment elsewhere addressed to the Webmaster of this site: For those of us who cannot listen Thursday nights at 10 p.m. Eastern time, could you please provide audio of Rav Horowitz's broadcasts or a link to another Web site that has them. Thank you.

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27. Our Children and the Election 11/5/08 - 10:06 AM
Anonymous

This one should be obvious and not require the expertise of our distinguished host:

It is wrong for parents to indicate their disappointment regarding the outcome of the election by making derogatory comments about the winners, especially the President-Elect. Children must be taught to respect adults, especially those in high positions, whether they are Jewish or not.

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28. Number 27 has a Point 11/5/08 - 5:35 PM
Anonymous

Good point!

Every human being deserves respect and dignity.

Children are humans too, and deserve respect.

Unlike some of the unfortunate comments made in the “Questions” forum, which seem to condone parental abuse.

No human being deserves any abuse, according to PETA neither do animals.:)

Feel free to express your logical concerns, regarding his foreign policy, or socialist idealism, but keep race out of it.

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29. Show wasn't on last night 11/14/08 - 11:20 AM
Yisroel - Teaneck, NJ

What happened?

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30. Need Hadrachah 12/15/08 - 12:54 AM
A Good Askan - Chicago

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31. #30 12/15/08 - 7:57 AM
Anonymous

This question may well deserve to be asked. However, most of the readership of this website are not from Chicago, and this is clearly a local issue. I, for one, amd completely clueless what happened or who is the subject of this matter. I am also guessing that any response by R' Horowitz would need to be specific to the issue, and would probably not lend much to a discussion that should continue in this international forum.

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32. #30 12/15/08 - 8:07 AM
Yakov Horowitz - Monsey NY

to #30

I am not at all aware of what you are discussing in your post. I will respectfully delete your comment, and invite you to email me at rabbihorowitz@rabbihorowitz.com with any details you would like to share with me, and what you think I can do that would be helpful.

Thank you for your understanding

Yakov

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