Should I set a curfew for my teenager?
For children, the most enviable child in the class is the one with the latest bedtime. When the children become teens, curfew replaces bedtime as the ultimate symbol of privilege. Teenagers, especially those that drive, crave independence. In a utopian world, teenagers would set appropriate limits for themselves and come home at a reasonable hour without getting in trouble. This dream, however, is so far from reality that some cities have actually imposed their own curfews for teenager in an effort to curb the alarming crime rate. Most teenagers are simply unable to deal with peer pressure and responsibility at the same time. Curfews help teens know their boundaries and assure them that people are watching out for them.
In the Jewish Community
If a poll was taken of the Jewish high schools about how many kids have a formal curfew, very few would respond in the affirmative. Many Jewish kids are members of large families, and it is difficult to keep track of the whereabouts of many kids at once. Parents often trust their children to come home at a reasonable hour, lock the door, and shut off the lights. Granted, some teens are uniquely responsible and have no need for a curfew, but they are the minority. All teenagers, even those who learn in school until late at night, need structure. For many, that structure includes setting a time in which students should be home. Just like elementary school teachers advocate for early bedtimes, high school educators should promote reasonable curfews and speak to the students about staying safe at night.
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American Psychological Association (APA)
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