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At what point do safety measures invade a child's privacy?


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At what point do safety measures invade a child’s privacy?

As children get older, their desire for privacy becomes greater. They often want more time on their own and spend more time in their bedroom. Many parents and teens do not see eye to eye on the topic of teen rights to privacy. Many parents feel they have the right to look through their teenagers rooms and to check up on them. However, that approach can cause more problems than solutions.

Just as adults need and expect privacy, teenagers certainly deserve it for themselves. They have private thoughts, conversations and there is no reason parents need to be privy to everything. Parents who have healthy relationships with their teens can find out what their child is doing by talking and listening to them and spending time with their children.

Certainly, if something bigger is going on, they may not share it, but unless you feel their lives are truly in danger, respecting a teen’s right to privacy is important. If you do feel your child may be using drugs or is depressed, talk to them about it. If you think your conversation still warrants checking their belongings, do it together and do it in a caring manner, rather than fighting and accusing.

If you decide to snoop around and then confront your child with what you find, it can get explosive and that does not help anyone. In addition, the focus can easily be shifted from the actual problem to the fact that their privacy was invaded. Approach this in an open way and it will more likely come to a better resolution.

In the Jewish Community

Recently, there has been an increased awareness about the existence of problems such as alcohol and drug abuse in the Jewish community. Although awareness is extremely important and is the first step in treatment, it is equally important to respect a child’s right for privacy. With open communication, parents will not feel the need to search a child’s room or listen in to telephone conversations.

Use the following links to educate yourself about your child’s right to have privacy. Learn how to balance safety and privacy, and find out where you can get help.

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