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What Went Terribly Wrong
Nechemia Weberman’s Trial on October 30th: Come to the Hearing – and Understand What Went Terribly Wrong
by Rabbi Yakov Horowitz

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9/28/12

What Went Terribly Wrong

Nechemia Weberman’s Trial on October 30th: Come to the Hearing – and Understand What Went Terribly Wrong

By: Rabbi Yakov Horowitz

Dear Readers: During these days leading up to Succos, our z’man simchaseinu, (time of collective joy), one might consider it inappropriate to write about topics that are far from joyous. However, having spent Rosh Hashana at an amazing and inspiring Madraigos retreat where there were more than a few abuse survivors in attendance, I feel compelled to release these lines at this time to fulfill a promise I made then to let the survivors among us know that they are not standing alone, and with the hope that it will result in safer practices among those in our community who are seeing help for their children. These lines are dedicated in memory of Yoni Polansky a“h (1994-2012).

Best wishes for a Gutten Shabbos and a Gutten Yom Tov.

Yakov

After many delays and much legal wrangling, Nechemia Weberman will finally stand trial in Brooklyn Criminal Court on October 30th for allegedly abusing a young girl in the Williamsburg community over a period of three years -- beginning when she was 12 years old.

Mr. Weberman is entitled to his day in court and the presumption of innocence until proven guilty.

Having said that, quoting the Halachic terms employed in the Teshuva of Rav Elyashiv zt”l, there is clearly far more than “raglayim l’davar” (credible suspicion) in this case. In fact, all indications point to the inescapable conclusion that something is very, very wrong here.

What Parents Need to Know

One of the most important things frum parents – especially those in the “heimish” community – ought to be developing is a deep understanding of the norms and accepted practice in the mental health profession. Gaining this would allow devoted and caring parents the ability to obtain suitable professional help for their children who need it, and avoid the trauma associated with following the recommendations made by untrained, well-meaning folks (unfortunately, an all too frequent occurrence, one which sometimes creates horrific results).

Moreover, it would help undo the denial and cognitive dissonance of those who defend Weberman -- by pointing out how disturbing were the circumstances of his "treatment" of the young girls referred to him.

Don’t Ignore the Warning Signs

Think of it this way. Wouldn't alarm bells go off in your mind if a doctor performed an invasive procedure without using latex gloves or if he/she picked up a used syringe to give you an injection? Wouldn't you think it strange if you were a single mother and were requested to meet with your son’s Rebbe or principal at 9 p.m. one evening in a deserted Yeshiva building to discuss your son's progress?

What Went Wrong

Well, those of us familiar with the do's and don'ts of accepted practice in the mental health profession saw similar blaring warning lights in our minds, as should you when the facts were made public that Weberman:

1) Had unregulated access to many girls over a number of years in his inappropriate and illegal role as their unlicensed "therapist."

2) Had these young girls referred to him for counseling by very Chassidish schools, whose general level of gender separation far exceeds those of the typical "Bais Yakov" (and it would be exceedingly rare for non-Chassidish girls’ schools to regularly refer their Talmidos to a male therapist)

3) Engaged in private, unsupervised counseling sessions with young girls -- often in an office/apartment that contained a working bedroom -- violating all norms of Yichud and Tzniyus.

In addition to all these disturbing facts, it has become clear that these serious allegations are in fact not isolated ones. In fact, since Mr. Weberman's arrest, I was personally contacted by immediate family members of four additional alleged victims of his who are afraid to come forward, and those of us close to the community have heard similar reports from others as well.

All the victims – none of whom know each other and all of whom are terrified to go to the authorities because of fear of backlash from the community – report striking similarities in the MO of Weberman (his manner of working), fueling suspicion that we are only seeing the tip of the iceberg.

What is most chilling is that each and every one of his victims who came to us is currently married; meaning that 1) this has been going on for a very long time, 2) if there are current victims who are single, they are even more terrified than the married women of coming forward, for fear that going public will ruin their chances of doing a decent shidduch.

Weberman’s case may very well be our community’s most important abuse trial during our lifetimes. It is imperative that we have a huge turnout in support of this courageous young lady who, may she be gezunt and ge’bentched, is determined to see this through to the end so others won't suffer like she did. Unbearable pressure is being brought to bear against her and her family to drop the case, which is one of the reasons that a show of support is so important.

Now That You Know

Those of us who work with abuse survivors respectfully implore you to please, please stand with this victim on October 30th, and with the other silent and silenced victims who are watching this case unfold very carefully, and with all survivors of abuse and molestation.

Please pass this on to your friends and family members and I hope to see you at the trial, heeding the timeless charge of Yeshayahu (Isaiah) (1:16) to “Seek justice [and] strengthen the victim.”

Yakov Horowitz

Director, Center for Jewish Family Life/Project YES www.kosherjewishparenting.com.



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1. Good Shabbos, Rebbe ...     9/28/12 - 2:43 PM
Mayer Fertig - Elizabeth, NJ

Upsetting but very informative. Which court, where and when?


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2. Backlash     9/28/12 - 5:48 PM
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Thank you Rabbi Horowitz, you are doing an outstanding service to our tayere neshamas. Please address the latest issue of organized and orchestrated stalking menacing and harassments of the supporters. These actions are illegal, and please alert the authorities to this issue if you want to have support for the victims. The criminal rapists cohorts are snapping pictures of attendees for later harassments, including attorney Gyorgy and you know whom I mean. Again, Please address this issue appropriately since it also encroaches on freedom of expression as well as the freedom to attend an open public courtroom. Thank you. A gut gebenscht yahr.


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3. Wrong on All Counts     9/29/12 - 8:11 PM
Dovid

Yanky Horowitz is wrong on all counts:

"1) Had unregulated access to many girls over a number of years in his inappropriate and illegal role as their unlicensed "therapist."

1) There is nothing illegal about anyone seeing a non-therapist for help.

"2) Had these young girls referred to him for counseling by very Chassidish schools, whose general level of gender separation far exceeds those of the typical "Bais Yakov" (and it would be exceedingly rare for non-Chassidish girls’ schools to regularly refer their Talmidos to a male therapist)"

2) There is nothing illegal or unethical about a male helping females. Or vice versa. This done for children and adults thousands of times every day all over the country. Including by 100% frum Jews.

"3) Engaged in private, unsupervised counseling sessions with young girls -- often in an office/apartment that contained a working bedroom -- violating all norms of Yichud and Tzniyus."

3) There is no law or ethic that requires any visit be non-private or supervised. In fact, sessions are almost always private and non-supervised. Including sessions with children. Sessions are meant -- exactly -- to be private. Otherwise the child (or adult) wouldn't feel comfortable relating their issues. And with privacy is the normal way of conducting sessions.

And, pray-tell, what is the difference between a working bedroom and a non-working bedroom? Other than Yanky trying to make it sound sinister. There is nothing wrong about there being a bedroom in the same office area as where the sessions are.

All in all, Yanky is trying to make normal things sound sinister.


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4. Wrong on All Counts     9/29/12 - 8:11 PM
Dovid

Yanky Horowitz is wrong on all counts:

"1) Had unregulated access to many girls over a number of years in his inappropriate and illegal role as their unlicensed "therapist."

1) There is nothing illegal about anyone seeing a non-therapist for help.

"2) Had these young girls referred to him for counseling by very Chassidish schools, whose general level of gender separation far exceeds those of the typical "Bais Yakov" (and it would be exceedingly rare for non-Chassidish girls’ schools to regularly refer their Talmidos to a male therapist)"

2) There is nothing illegal or unethical about a male helping females. Or vice versa. This done for children and adults thousands of times every day all over the country. Including by 100% frum Jews.

"3) Engaged in private, unsupervised counseling sessions with young girls -- often in an office/apartment that contained a working bedroom -- violating all norms of Yichud and Tzniyus."

3) There is no law or ethic that requires any visit be non-private or supervised. In fact, sessions are almost always private and non-supervised. Including sessions with children. Sessions are meant -- exactly -- to be private. Otherwise the child (or adult) wouldn't feel comfortable relating their issues. And with privacy is the normal way of conducting sessions.

And, pray-tell, what is the difference between a working bedroom and a non-working bedroom? Other than Yanky trying to make it sound sinister. There is nothing wrong about there being a bedroom in the same office area as where the sessions are.

All in all, Yanky is trying to make normal things sound sinister.


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5. It's Yankie, not Yanky     9/30/12 - 7:44 AM
Yakov Horowitz - Monsey/NY

Dovid:

Thanks for taking the time to write, and the next time you post, please feel free to include your last name and the city where you live.

For starters, I spell my name ending with "ie", like Yankie.

Now, let's address the points you raise:

1) It is very inappropriate for people without professional training (like myself, for example) to bill for "therapy" services. Weberman was charging $150- per "session" or more. They should certainly be referring to trained mental health professionals and not attempting to tinker with the delicate psyche of a kid-at-risk. BTW, one wonders why schools would benefit from regularly referring to someone with no training, WHO IS NOT A MANDATED REPORTER.

2) Sure "thousands of people" see opposite gender therapists. Not in Williamsburg, though. We at Project YES regularly refer Chassidish people to therapists, and the vast majority ask for someone of the same gender. With far more therapists being female, it is difficult enough to obtain a male therapist for boys who need therapy.

Why send young girls to a man, when there are so many well-trained, Frum, female therapists? (hint: NON-MANDATED REPORTER)

3) A working bedroom means just what it sounds like -- with made-up beds, as opposed to a converted apartment, where the bedroom is made into an office and the beds are removed.

Now that we've got that out of the way, why don't you respond to the real issues raised?

Do you think something is very wrong with:

1) The additional women coming forward with very sessions allegations 2) The fact that their appalling stories match, despite the fact that they don't know each other 3) The wildly inappropriate methods of a very Chassidish fellow alone with young girls 4) The Yichud violations.......

Dovid, would you recommend Weberman to "treat" a young lady now that you know all this??

Best wishes for a Gutten Yom Tov,

YANKIE

For updates of Nechemya Weberman's criminal trial:

Log in as a public user to: http://iapps.courts.state.ny.us/webcrim_attorney/Login

Case # 01589-2011

Defendant Weberman, Nechemya

Kings County Supreme Court - Criminal Branch

320 Jay Street

Brooklyn NY 11201

General Info: (347) 296-1076


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6. your post     9/30/12 - 10:37 AM
guest

In a sense you are barking up the wrong tree. He is part of Satmar the Malachim and who knows what else most likely the NK as well. It is to them whom you should be addressing your remarks. They are doing what they can for him. They know the truth most likely much better than you. How can a Jewish chasidic organisation with a 'rebbe' at the helm condone it. There seems to be no arguement that he hasnt kept dinim of yichud for a start. I still think in the end he will get out of it by paying them off. They have plenty of money for this sort of thing. There should be some sort of outcry against his organisation that will wake them up. Stop buying their products or something until the leaders come clean. As long as they know they have their organisation behind them nothing will change.


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7. WRONG WHO?     9/30/12 - 11:03 AM
Anonymous

If I may:

There is everything wrong about Dovid's breakdown.

1) There is nothing illegal about anyone seeing a non-therapist for help.

-(1) It IS illegal, let alone unethical for anyone, Therapist or non-Therapist to imposter as a

a) Torah

b) Therapist

while he is neither. This Quack, kept neither Torah (Dinei Yichud, let alone ma'asseh chiduddin, both in violation of Torah), nor delivered any Therapy. In any business that the goods are not delivered is Theft, services not rendered, of which to say the least, is against the LAW and ILLEGAL.

2) There is nothing illegal or unethical about a male helping females. Or vice versa. This done for children and adults thousands of times every day all over the country. Including by 100% frum Jews.

-(2) (a) Not only do we have rules and regulations for appropriate male female medical or otherwise sessions, e.g. window, opened door, camera, accompanied, or Yotze venichnass, he had NONE, and was removed and remote from such, as far as possible.

(b) Surely, they could have allocated a female Therapist, especially that this sect is heavily into mechitzot, and Talmud states, " I ike darkei achrine, reshiei hu ". (if there is any other way, he is a RASHA)

3) There is no law or ethic that requires any visit be non-private or supervised. In fact, sessions are almost always private and non-supervised. Including sessions with children. Sessions are meant -- exactly -- to be private. Otherwise the child (or adult) wouldn't feel comfortable relating their issues. And with privacy is the normal way of conducting sessions.

And, pray-tell, what is the difference between a working bedroom and a non-working bedroom? Other than Yanky trying to make it sound sinister. There is nothing wrong about there being a bedroom in the same office area as where the sessions are.

-(3)

(a) If and when Privacy is called for, the more so a female Therapist is to be allocated, in order to appropriately provide just that. (b) There is everything wrong with having a BED in a room or so called alleged office, especially while and when all Kllalei Yichud have been violated on a one to one, male to female sessions.

(A) It is suggestive,

(B) Pirtza kore laGanav,

(C) Lav achbara Ganvei ele churay ganvei, no pun intended,

(D) A Bed makes it more tempting and possible, while Dinei Yichud is there to diminish just that,

(E) It is also flirting, all that, while "ein Apotropus leArayot."

According to the Law, even when you misrepresent a Religious quality and criteria of any item or Religious and Orthodox Rabbinical Certified Kashruth, e.g. Glatt kosher meat, Brit or Matrimonial services etc., it is outright THEFT and IILLEGAL. If you sell yourself as a "Torah" and "Therapist", licensed or unlicensed, it means just that. Here not only was there no Torah nor Therapy, but no Yirah, no Chochma, no nothing, only a cunning Pedophile and Child molester, Rapist, Sodomizer, Ganav and Rasha, trying to turn tables and blaming the victim.

4) All in all, Yanky is trying to make normal things sound sinister.

-(4) There is nothing sinister or normal engaging in such. Zaakat Sdom vaAmorrah ki Rabba.

Tell me dovid, do you still think he has a PRAYER?

These complaints have been informed to the highest authorities and delivered to the highest levels on many separate occasions, but it went on deaf ears and swept under the rug. Did it occur for anyone to ask why ?


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8. Why Do Orthodox Communities Cover Up Sexual Abuse?     9/30/12 - 5:58 PM
Raffi - raffi@frumcounselor.com

In response to those pondering the community's reaction to this case, here is something that may be of interest:

http://www.frumcounselor.com/2012/09/orthodox-cover-up-sexual-abuse.html


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9. Updated trial information     10/3/12 - 1:40 PM
e-court - Brooklyn, NY

Here's updated info for those of you who are following this criminal trial:

eTrack WebCrims: Case Number 01589-2011 Updated Court: Kings Supreme Court - Criminal Term Case Number: 01589-2011 Summons/Ticket Number: Defendant: Weberman, Nechemya Defendant Status: VFO Arrest Date: February 23, 2011 10:00 Incident Date: April 15, 2007 Criminal Justice Tracking Number: 64678334R NYSID Number: 9462575N Arrest Number: K11618012 Issuing Officer Agency: NYPD Issuing Officer Command: 77

Defense Attorney: Farkas, G Attorney Type: Private (Retained) Assignment Date: March 25, 2011

Assistant District Attorney: Odonnell, Assignment Date: February 14, 2012 Next Appearance: 10/30/2012 --- Information updated Part: 21 Judge: Ingram, J Calendar Section: TRIALS AM Arraignment / Hearing Type: No Type

Among the Charges: PL 130.75 1B Sex Conduct Against Child<13 ** TOP CHARGE** --- Information updated B Felony, 1 count, Arrest charge, Arraignment charge

PL 130.45 01 Criminal Sex Act-2: Victim<15 --- D Felony, 12 counts, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge Disposition/Sentence:

PL 130.20 02 Sex Miscon: Oral/anal Conduct --- Information updated A Misdemeanor, 14 counts, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge Disposition/Sentence:

PL 130.55 00 Sexual Abuse 3rd B Misdemeanor, 8 counts, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge --- Date Added: 03/08/2011 Disposition/Sentence:


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10. Wrong on All Counts     10/3/12 - 9:03 PM
Dovid Miller - Brooklyn

Hi Yankie,

My apologies for misspelling your name. When I err, I will of course concede the point. And on this point I most sincerely thank you for pointing out this error so I could correct it. Per your request, I have also included my last name and city with this comment.

1) Rabbi Weberman was not billing for "therapy". He never advertised himself as a therapist or mental health professional, nor had he billed for "therapy" services. And this type of arrangement is quite common in Chasidic communities. All his actions in this regard was entirely legal, ethical and not uncommon.

2) While it is indeed correct that in Williamsburg it is less common for people to see someone of the opposite gender, even in Williamsburg is done. In Litvishe circles it is more common. And in the secular world, no one bats an eyelash. In any event it is both legal and in compliance with halacha.

3) Rabbi Weberman had no beds in his office where he saw clients.

4) There were no yichud violations. Rabbi Weberman never violated yichud, as there was always someone else in the office building who had immediate and unannounced access to the office where he was seeing clients.


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11. Wrong on All Counts     10/3/12 - 9:03 PM
Dovid Miller - Brooklyn

Hi Yankie,

My apologies for misspelling your name. When I err, I will of course concede the point. And on this point I most sincerely thank you for pointing out this error so I could correct it. Per your request, I have also included my last name and city with this comment.

1) Rabbi Weberman was not billing for "therapy". He never advertised himself as a therapist or mental health professional, nor had he billed for "therapy" services. And this type of arrangement is quite common in Chasidic communities. All his actions in this regard was entirely legal, ethical and not uncommon.

2) While it is indeed correct that in Williamsburg it is less common for people to see someone of the opposite gender, even in Williamsburg is done. In Litvishe circles it is more common. And in the secular world, no one bats an eyelash. In any event it is both legal and in compliance with halacha.

3) Rabbi Weberman had no beds in his office where he saw clients.

4) There were no yichud violations. Rabbi Weberman never violated yichud, as there was always someone else in the office building who had immediate and unannounced access to the office where he was seeing clients.


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12. What was wrong with Weberman     10/3/12 - 11:16 PM
Yerachmiel Lopin

1. Plain and simple, It was a tiny apartment with a bedroom to the side. The bedroom was never properly converted into an office by removing a bed. That is highly suggestive and inappropriate for any therapist, secular or Frum. Period. I will not argue this point with anyone who can not see it. I know this was the set up from People who were in that space during sessions there. There was no one able or allowed to go into the office. It was a violation of Yichud. Some defender claimed that Mrs. Weberman came through to get faxes. There was no office equipment in that appartment. None. the cheap bum didnt even put up any decoration.

2. Consistently using only male therapists is strange, to say the least. As Rabbi Horowitz pointed out, when his organization does referrals to therapists for chasidish families there is an overwhelming preference for same sex therapists.

3. This was extortion. The families weren't told "we see your kid is doing poorly so please go to one of these recommended therapists or anyone else comparably competent. No. They were told use Ploni (in this case Weberman and in other cases Yagen). They were also told a very high rate ($150-$250/session)x so many sessions.

Extortion is illegal.

Unfortunately, there is not any regulation of the use of the term "therapist" in NYS, but the families were certainly misled into believing either Yagen or Weberman had even an iota of professional training or even professional intuition.

Yes, parents do often stay outside during a session, but in deference to yichud the parents should have brought the kids and there should have been a window on the office door. Instead the high priced therapist was also the chaufer. This increased their isolation. Does anyone else know of therapists who pick up and return therapy patients. I don't. These days it is miracle if a plumber does a house visit.


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13. Wrong Everything, Dovid Hanofolles     10/4/12 - 4:08 PM
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10. Wrong on All Counts 10/3/12 - 9:03 PM Dovid Miller - Brooklyn

Hi Yankie, ...

******************************************************

Dovid Miller: WRONG AGAIN

* What you are trying to do is making statements of ORVA PARACH, (a bird flew by, nisht zu der zach, distracting from the focal point, although it states something that could be true as predicting tomorrows sunsrise or sunset, half truth or shades of not even grey) by doing word and expression laundering.

1) Rabbi Weberman was not billing for "therapy". He never advertised himself as a therapist or mental health professional, nor had he billed for "therapy" services. And this type of arrangement is quite common in Chasidic communities. All his actions in this regard was entirely legal, ethical and not uncommon.

* Although haerev rav Weberman was not doing the billing himself, nor advertised himself under any title for extorted services with exorbitant fees, just collaborating, and in compliance with charlatans that did just THAT, while knowingly being labeled as such ( as in naaseh melachtam al yedei acherim ), in tandem and in cahoots, is not only unethical, but Illegal as well, regardless of being common or uncommon. Surely, he got paid and understood well what he is getting paid allegedly for. On information and belief, in regards to the accumulated charges of 150 Felonies multiplied by his additional victims, do you also think it is entirely legal, ethical and not uncommon?

2) While it is indeed correct that in Williamsburg it is less common for people to see someone of the opposite gender, even in Williamsburg is done. In Litvishe circles it is more common. And in the secular world, no one bats an eyelash. In any event it is both legal and in compliance with halacha.

* Ein Hamikro yotze midei pshuto: Yichud is Yichud is Yichud no matter how you slice it, albeit not so in the secular world. Only in the cheder the kids tried the excuse of, others also do it, but was never acceptable. No such excuse is ever found on Yom Kippur, or veshaar kol yemot hashana. Veha 'raya', the consequences proved it to be wrong, and on more than one occasion! Therefore, it is neither legal nor in compliance with Halacha. By the way, what kind of goods was he suppose to deliver to the girls, and what was it that he did deliver without even batting an eyelash?

3) Rabbi Weberman had no beds in his office where he saw clients.

* Here we go again, a bed in location of alleged Hadracha not serving its function and it's purpose for, al pi "derech hayashar vehatov", better yet "veheyssem nekiyim", beruach yisrael sava, becheder or lifnim micheder, or bechadrei chadarim, is highly unethical and opposes the essence of YICHUD, to say the least.

4) There were no yichud violations. Rabbi Weberman never violated yichud, as there was always someone else in the office building who had immediate and unannounced access to the office where he was seeing clients.

* Someone else in the office building, will not do as far as YICHUD. Access must be to the immediate office itself, and that is immediate without any prior notice, without any bells or whistles, or footstep sounds in tall elevations and long corridors, entrance camera monitors, or AWACS (early warning systems) etc. You give a very vague description of "immediate unannounced access", that none of the Hanhala, Rabbanim, or victims have given support. Did this entity in the building (possibly referring to a tennant of another floor) have any knowledge at all when that voodoo session was in operation or in progress, to even know if and when to check?

Not only did this Rosh Hamalachim, Rosh Vaad mishmeres hatznius grossly violate hilchos YICHUD, but in full violation of VAAD ARBA ARATZOT! Namely, SDOM, VA'AMORAH, ADMO, UTZVOYIM. Ele panechah Vaad, Who vaad? What Vaad? Vaad li'Vidas znut.

Umalach Ra Ya'aneh Amen.


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14.     10/5/12 - 3:31 PM
Judy Genut

To Dovid Miller wrong on all counts. Your name says it all. You are wrong on all counts. Weberman took thousands of dollars from parents and promising parents results. So he did not advertise, you want to get hung up on technicalities. There was a bed in his office (bed, not coach-recliner [the usual furniture-seen in a professional therapists office]). Lets talk about the full length mirror that hung there. As not to speak more"loshon hora" before hoshana rabba- I will refrain to mention the purpose of the mirror there!!!! The sad part is, is that Weberman knows exactly how guilty he is- and he is having a nice laugh at all the people that are sticking up for him. If it wouldn't be so tragic, horrific and heinous, I too would laugh along with him. As far as male therapists to female client- First of all - Satmar chassidus exerts soo much effort in keeping gender separation- the girls camp don't come home on a day when the boys camp comes home. Not even a chance meeting on the highways with boys and girls in separate busses is allowed. Monroe bus company was the first one's in putting up mechitzas...... And you tell me that it was normal for the school to employ a young untrained man, a man that had no life experience (he has a very good home [kudos to his wife]) All his children are on the derech. So what exactly was his experience?? Also- many of his girl/clients and woman too- were beautiful!!!!!! What about his practice- were he was very persistent in driving his girl/client up to camp a distance of more than 6 hours (if not more {Gilboa, New York. When the mother of the girl questioned him about "Issur Yichud", he lashed out at her with verbal and emotional abuse- and made the mother apologize to him by written letter!!!!! Do you want some more facts??? I have spoken to his victims- and know more than I ever wanted to know or hear!!!! Moreover- to the fact that not everyone is a professional and people send to them, that is their choice. However, 98% of trained professional, would never go down the path that Weberman went. The reason for this is: Who would jeopardize 8-9 years of college and training, and license (the money involved up until your degree) only to have it taken away-at the first hint of abuse/scandal??? Only the likes of webermans... they had nothing invested, so nothing lost. All I can tell you or wish you with, "you are more than welcome to have such a loyal, ehrlicha, dedicated and learned man like weberman, in the life of your daughters or grandaughters. So to all the Dovids out there-please refrain from sticking up for molesters/abusers, especially if you don't have the facts!!!!!


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15.     10/10/12 - 1:10 AM
GD - Brooklyn

Dovid Miller, are you the perpetrator himself or something? Why are you trying to defend him?


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16. Madraigos Link     10/13/12 - 10:33 PM
Anonymous

Rabbi, just wanted to let you know that the link to Madraigos is a dead link. Would love to see the article you intended to link to.

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Ed: This link is to the Madraigos website: http://www.madraigos.org/


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17. you, a rabbi?     10/17/12 - 9:33 AM
annoyed

so called rabbi, Jewish law clearly is against your method of high powered gossip. as you well know, gossip can be true as well. noone is being educated about this individual from you. anyone who goes to your sight knows about him. years ago you had to do with a psychotic woman, who had a web-sight to deal with abuse. you publicly said that the only reason that you don't endorse her sight is because," she has the names of accused, before they are proven guilty". now that has become you. how, so called rabbi, do you look yourself in the mirror?


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18. From a gentile     8/30/14 - 9:24 PM
Jack - Ny/ny

G-d bless you rabbi and all survivors of these kinds of abuses. Have faith in G-d and the important work your doing to help victims. It's people like you rabbi who make a world of difference. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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