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Rabbi Doniel Staum - Parshas Ki Savo 5773 "How and Where"
by Rabbi Doniel Staum, LMSW

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“A shortcut is often the quickest way to some place you weren’t going.[1]

Rabbi Shimon Russel[2] related the following anecdote:

There was once a young boy who would walk through the busy city streets each morning on his way to school. As he walked, he would marvel at the men and women, who he deemed the ‘successful people’, rushing through the streets on their way to work. He was impressed by their formal dress, shiny shoes, leather briefcases and fresh newspaper in hand.

As soon as the boy graduated, he decided that he too wanted to be a ‘successful person’. He borrowed his father’s old suit, grabbed an old briefcase, and walked briskly, pretending to be rushing like everyone else. He followed the ‘successful people’ down to the subway and got on line to purchase a ticket for the train. When it was his turn, the ticket-master asked him where he was going. The boy shrugged, “I want to go where all the successful people are going.” The ticket-master impatiently snapped, “Sir, everyone is going to a different place; tell me where you want to go!” The boy repeated that he had no specific destination in mind, “I don’t care where I end up. I just want to get on the train.” The ticket master tried in vain to explain to the boy that he could not give him a ticket unless he knew where he wanted to go. After a few minutes, the ‘successful’ person behind the young boy impatiently shoved him out of the way and proceeded to the window. Many trains came and went that morning and from the platform the dejected young boy watched all of them whiz by without him.

Rabbi Russel concluded: “If you have no idea where you’re going, how are you going to get there? How can you head toward a destination in life, if you haven’t decided where it is that you’re heading?”

Dr. Stephen Covey, in his acclaimed New York Times best-seller, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, notes the importance of ‘beginning with the end in mind’[3]. “To begin with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination. It means to know where you’re going so that you better understand where you are now and so that the steps you take are always in the right direction…It is possible to be busy – very busy- without being very effective…the carpenter’s rule is, ‘measure twice, cut once’.”

“Moshe, and the Kohanim and the Levi’im, spoke to all of Yisroel saying, “Haskays ush’ma Yisroel- Be attentive and hear, O Yisroel, This day you have become a people to Hashem, your G-d.[4]

Rashi[5] explains that when Moshe gave his newly written Torah scroll to the tribe of Levi for safekeeping, the rest of the nation immediately protested. They feared that some day the Levites might say that the Torah is theirs exclusively, pointing to the fact that the Torah scrolls are solely in their possession. Moshe rejoiced when he heard the nation’s complaint because it demonstrated their love and reverence for Torah. When Moshe saw that they had such a deep love and desire for Torah he stated that on that day they had matured into a people.

What did Moshe mean when he told the nation to “be attentive and listen?”

S’forno explains that the word, ‘haskays” connotes a deeper meaning than simple attentiveness. It entails mental imagining, to picture in one’s mind what is being expressed.

Shem MiShmuel[6] explains that S’forno’s explanation highlights a fundamental idea in regard to spiritual growth. One cannot begin his quest for accomplishment before he has a clear picture in his mind of what he wants to accomplish. He explains that this is why the pious men of yore[7] would wait an hour before beginning to pray[8]. They utilized that time to contemplate what they wanted to accomplish via their prayers and what they wanted to pray for.

Shem MiShmuel concludes that this concept also forms the basis of why the month of Elul precedes the awesome Days of Judgment. The purpose of the thirty days of Elul is to grant one ample time to contemplate what he wants to accomplish through the mediums of Tishrei, i.e. what he wants to achieve through the mitzvos of shofar, penitence, prayer, tashlich, succah, four species etc. All of these mitzvos are mediums for greater personal growth and are not merely ends unto themselves.

Rav Shimshon Pinkus zt’l[9] quotes ‘a Torah leader’ who quipped that the purpose of all of our spiritual efforts throughout the month of Tishrei, with all of the unique mitzvos endemic to each holiday, is so that when we utter verse, (Devorim 4:35) “Atah harysah lada’as - You have been shown in order to know that Hashem, He is the G-d! There is none beside Him!” on the eve of Simchas Torah[10] we should be able to truly feel the veracity of those words.

One needs to have that goal in mind at the outset. Only one who knows his ultimate destination, and appreciates where it is that he wants to end up prior to embarking on his journey, can eventually hope to get there. “Haskays” be attentive, and then, “Sh’ma Yisroel”. Contemplate and reflect upon the true joy of Simchas Torah, especially in achieving a level of truth faith in G-d, and then embark on the road of Elul and Tishrei that will lead you there.

Each mitzvah and each holiday is a guide and a map. A tourist can study a map and know the directions perfectly, but if he remains in his hotel room, he will return home after his vacation is over, having cheated himself out of the most important part of his trip.

When we implore G-d not to return us empty handed from before Him[11], we are begging G-d not to allow us to begin the winter without a deeper emotional connection with Him. We are praying He guide us during this elite time period to develop within our souls an appreciation of the love He has for us, and the merit we have to develop a genuine connection with Him.

“Be attentive and hear… This day you have become a people”

“There is none beside Him!”

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[1] Rabbi Dr. Abraham J. Twerski, Addictive Thinking, Hazelden, 1997

[2] An acknowledged therapist from Lakewood, N.J.

[3] Habit 2

[4] 27:9

[5] 29:3

[6] Ki Savo 5672

[7] ‘chassidim harishonim’

[8] Berachos 30b

[9] Sichos, Yomim Noraim

[10] just prior to the commencement of hakafos

[11] "אבינו מלכנו נא אל תשיבנו ריקם מלפניך"

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