Last updated on 09/18/08
Is my child being influenced by his friends?
As children grow older, they tend to spend more and more time with their friends. A teenager in school may spend more time with peers than they do with parents and siblings! It is natural for people to identify with and compare themselves to their peers as they consider how they wish to be (or think they should be), or what they want to achieve. People are influenced by friends because they want to fit in, be like peers they admire, do what others are doing, or have what others have. Although some influence can be good, influence from peers can also be very harmful. Peer pressure is what makes kids try drugs, alcohol, and other dangerous behaviors. Children will do almost anything to retain their social status; even if it means endangering their lives.
In the Jewish Community
The Jewish community has a large population of teenagers, and wherever there are teenagers there is peer pressure. Jewish teens learning a double curriculum often spend most of the day in school among peers. Therefore, it is important to them to have a social circle of friends, no matter the cost. A child with a healthy self-esteem is not immune, but is less likely to suffer from the negative effects of peer pressure.
Use the following links to educate yourself about influence and peer pressure. Learn to distinguish between good and bad influence and find out how to recognize negative peer pressure before it becomes a problem.
Frequently Asked Links
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How can I help my teen respond properly to peer pressure?
How would I know if my teen’s friends are a bad influence?
What should I do if my child has bad friends?
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