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Last updated on 11/26/08

How should I prepare my child for a new sibling?

In the United States, about 80% of families with children are composed of more than one child, meaning most children have brothers and sisters. Many children get a new sibling during their preschool years, either through birth or through adoption. The addition of a new sibling can be a huge transition for young children to go through, as they must start to share attention, affection, and space with another young person for the first time.

Parents can ease this change by preparing children well in advance for the upcoming birth. They should try to explain to kids, in age-appropriate language, what to expect and how their situation will likely change. Books and videos written in kid-friendly language and covering the topic of sibling introductions are available at many libraries and bookstores. Above all, caregivers should try to make existing children feel important and involved during this exciting time in the family's life.

Even with appropriate preparation, many children still exhibit resentful behavior when the new child actually arrives. It is important to give your child an increased amount of attention and allow them to spend time with their new sibling. It may take a little while, but children generally adjust to their new siblings after a few weeks and can prove to be useful aids in caring for the new baby.

In the Jewish Community

The average family size in the Jewish Community is considerably larger than those of its counterparts. It is not unusual for a family to have six or eight young children, causing Jewish families to deal with the birth of a new child more frequently. When a new baby is born to a large family, the former youngest child is easily forgotten. It is imperative to give this child even more attention than they received before in order that they should not associate the birth of the baby with a negative occurrence. It is advisable to assign an older child to give attention to the younger children, ensuring that no child will be left on the sidelines to fend for itself.

Use the following links to learn to prepare your children for a new sibling. Find out about a child’s feelings toward a new child read about readily available books to help prepare your children for a new baby.

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