Last updated on 12/24/08
How can I teach my child to share?
One of the first few words a child utters after “mommy” and “daddy” is “mine”. Toddlers are naturally very possessive over their belongings. Although it can be frustrating at times to watch a child refuse to share an item, it is normal and generally grown out of. Pre-school aged children who refuse to share usually do so because they lack a sense of compassion for others. Using role-playing scenarios, parents and educators can allow the child to understand the feelings of other children. Children are not intentionally malicious, and most will stop the selfish behavior when they realize that it is hurting others.
In the Jewish Community
Children in the Jewish community are taught about good character traits from a very young age. Although some parents may interpret their child’s refusal to share as a rejection of his education and a serious flaw of character, it is important to remember that it is quite normal for young children to be possessive.
Use the following links to learn how to teach your children to share. Find out when a refusal to share is a problem and learn how to respond when your child does not share.
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